So, I'm a babysitter

[Algonquin]

I'm 19 years old and finished high school last June.

My sister who's 27 went back to work in august, her husband works as well.
I live at home with my mother and father, my dad works and my mom is confined to a wheelchair atm.

until my mother has gained enough mobility after her hip replacement to walk on her own i cant leave her alone.
So in late august i was also given the responsibility of babysitting my 1 year old niece.

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I sometimes feel stuck in my life, with no prospect of going anywhere, hell I'm waiting for the chance to get into debt and go to college, but she makes me the days more livable.

have any of you felt stuck like me and gotten past it?

[Clayton]

Kinda there right now tbh. Working a dead end job, don't have any real interest in going to college, don't really know what I want to do. It's down between the police academy, which I can't go into until I'm 22 (20 now) or EMT training...But I guess it's just the first step that's the hardest.

[Algonquin]

We'll i'd go into police training myself, although be prepared to deal with a lot of co-workers on a powertrip. For all the good police can do there's quite a few who are nothing but thugs with badges sadly.

[Kodo]

Stuck just means it's time to re-evaluate where you are and what your options are. When I feel stuck it's usually because I'm in a routine. It could be also be because I'm unwilling to accept my current experience. To get out of this mindset it helps me to change up the patterns and look deeper into things I already enjoy, and try to use my free time for something new.

Do you have a job right now? Have you thought about taking classes at a community college?

Also, use that cute baby to your advantage; she will help you stay young. Don't be in a rush to deal with money and career, it's really not that awesome growing up, you just get more responsibilities and less time for yourself. Your life is just starting so enjoy the way it is right now. You'll have plenty of time for that other stuff!

[xelasha]

Don't become a cop, Only people that are respected by cops are old people, fellow cops and religious people.

[Ash_735]

Dude, don't tell him to not be a cop because he won't get respect off people, a job is a job and as long as you're ok in that job and the money is good you shouldn't have to give a crap what people think about you as long as you have your mates, etc, turning down a job because it isn't cool is rather stupid if you need the money.


have any of you felt stuck like me and gotten past it?

Yeah, for about a year I felt just stuck with nothing, broke, no job, nothing going well for me, etc, and all that jazz, it's a stupid phase but one thing I can tell you is that it does make you more mature and gives you a real sense of normal life and it's problems, I recently went back to education and I honestly feel like an outcast there because most of the people are, well, kids, I don't blame them for that after all they've just left School/College and gone straight to University where it was me who took the year off and then went on to experience a lot more stuff that pretty much I'd like to think benefited me and gave me a greater sense of how life actually is. What I'm trying to get at is, right now you think you're at a low point but in the end, you'll come out better for it as you'll at least be mentally more mature as you've faced a low point and fought through it. Then again I could be rambling, pay no attention to me.

[Roxstein]

Except, being a cop is fucking awesome. I respect cops, even though I've had negative encounters with them in the past.

[Algonquin]

Thanks Kodo, that really does help. I think it is time to start changing a few things in my life, sadly I am kinda stuck at the moment by responsibilities and the like, but maybe changing a few things up in everyday life can help me shake the cobwebs. That cute little baby does help an awful lot, it's amazing how a little cute can brighten up the day, and how infectious a baby's laughter can be.

Also, I respect police, but what most people don't do is realize that a police man, is a man. he has the same problems and can be just as much a fool as any regular man, some let the power go to their head and act oddly, others become great officers and crusaders for good, still others do their work with nothing else on their mind but the mortgage. It's life, and as ash said, it's a job.