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Patrucci
07-02-2009, 11:37 PM
and be by yourself. You wouldn't have any worries, none at all.

That is how my mother lives. I often think she has no heart. I know she has a physical heart, but mentally, no. She has never been a mother figure, she walked out on my family before I was a year old. She went to Vegas, and met up with this older guy. 10 years later the divorced, after moving back here, and he removed her from his will.

She's now shacked up with a janitor, from the mall she works at. I often wish I had a mom, I do have a mother, there is a strong difference.

All I have is my Dad. My brother. They have been my family. We were always close, growing up. Endless summer days, living it up. Remote control monster trucks. My brother always had the bigger one. As we grew older, we started growing apart. My brother and I were always at eachothers throats, my Dad usually didn't witness it because he was having trouble with his second marriage.

I didn't like my stepmother. She was a grand bitch. My Dad was going through health problems, she just bitched at him. I dispised her so much. He had pancreatitis, and was in constant pain. In and out of the hospital. She never took care of us, she would stick us with our Grandparents.

Dad always had health problems, crushed spleen, he has basically no pancreas, he's had hernias, pneumonia which was especially bad, because he had no pancreas. They broke up before he got pneumonia though.

It was Easter Sunday of 2005. I didn't shed a tear. I used to pretend to be asleep at night, and hear them argue. She cheated on him. So fuck her, we didn't need her.

I still visited my biological mother every second weekend. I haven't seen her much, after she split with her husband, the old guy.

My dad took up heavy drinking, he has always been an average drinker, but he started drinking rum. He would go to the liquor store every day, and buy a new bottle. He got sick, this was when he had pneumonia, he wouldn't tell the doctor about it, so he hardly scheduled appointments.

He would have coughing fits. Even to the point where he would pass out from lack of air. After about 4 months of this, he started drinking NyQuil, hoping it would help. Mixing NyQuil, Travel Tabs, and Rum wasn't good.

He took all those to an excsessive point. He started hallucinating. It was winter, everything was cold. I missed a week of school, and spent that entire week in his bedroom. Helping him get through this, trying to detox him. It didn't work. He thought he had a money clip, with 200$ in it. He was searching his room for hours, I kept telling him he didn't have one. He eventually agreed, and went back to bed. At around 3am, I was woken up by the wind.

We were having a snow storm, and the door was wide open. Dad wasn't in his bed. I checked outside, and he was laying on his back in the snow. I immediately got him up. I brought him inside, he hadn't been out for long, but he lost his balance and couldn't get back up. At this point I called an ambulance. He spent over a month in hospital.

He was told to stay off alchohol, otherwise he would do really bad damage. When he got out of the hospital, we spent around 3-4 weeks at our grandparents. He started drinking right away.

After a few months, he claimed the doctor said alcohol wouldn't effect him. He's my Dad, so I believed him.

Roughly a year after the pneumonia incident, he was back in the hospital. He was hallucinating again. This time it was induced by the alcohol. He damaged most of his internal organs, to a really bad extent.

He is still recovering from this. I've almost lost my Dad twice.

To answer my question, No. I would not like to live alone. I don't want sympathy, or attention. I'm not an attention whore like everyone says. I'm just basically saying, keep your family close. You won't have anyone to rely on when they're gone.

Legham
07-03-2009, 02:05 AM
Didn't read your post, but yeah, i dont mind being alone. It's pretty gravy.

Havok_Jro
07-03-2009, 04:37 AM
Patrucci... Is this another damn my life sucks please feel sorry for me thread ?

But on topic, i mentally couldn't handle living alone, i have sleep issues where unless i know someone is awake in my house i can't sleep, and i get really bad paranoia, and will literally stab a cat cause i think it's there to get me

the punisher
07-03-2009, 04:49 AM
I live alone now, but when I was younger I used to live with my family, and I used to hate it. To be honest, it's not that bad. Even though all families have big issues most of the time, living together is definitely better than alone.

Patrucci
07-03-2009, 09:39 AM
To answer my question, No. I would not like to live alone. I don't want sympathy, or attention. I'm not an attention whore like everyone says. I'm just basically saying, keep your family close. You won't have anyone to rely on when they're gone.

No Havok_Jro this isn't a 'my life sucks' thread. My life doesn't suck, my life is great. We have an occasional argument here and there, but who doesn't. This is a conversation, if you can't handle that stay out of the topic.

Ever hear of a mature conversation?

FG
07-04-2009, 05:55 PM
I know the feeling , i think I have mentioned this somewhere , about the time I sunk my boss's yacht , well I failed to mention that it was in the south Pacific and I had to live alone on an atol for three days.

I thought of Robinson Crusoe ( after I found food and a good place to sleep ) my family almost killed me when I got home.
So at that moment I kinda wanted to go back , if it had been any longer I most likely would have died of missing them all to much.

The place was really not bad tho , I could have lived there for a long time I think , if I knew I would get to go home at some point....not to bad, really...

solitude is nice,aswell. In limited amounts.
I wrote down some poetry whilst there , I'm going to dig it out and put it here.
Good topic.

JRussell89
07-04-2009, 08:20 PM
Everyone needs time to themselves to help organize their thoughts and to clear their minds. I live by myself but I am close to my family and have a good group of friends (except for the ass who sabotaged me here on this site as a joke). I don't think I could remain strictly a loner. I need human contact, that's what helps me grow as a person.

Thomas B.
07-05-2009, 06:15 PM
I've imagined living on an island like Robinson Crusoe. He had it made on his island, plenty of food, fresh water, his "fortress", everything. Just no cannibals.

Shadow Conception
07-07-2009, 12:17 AM
I dunno, I had the house to myself for a couple of days and I loved it. First day I threw a party, and the next day I stayed home all day eating granola bars and watching Nick and Norah. Besides the dog, it does get lonely, but the best thing is that you can do fucking anything you want. I took a walk outside at 2am with no mom to yell at me. It was just hypnotic how noiseless and tranquil it was outside.

I wouldn't wanna be alone for too long though. Definitely nothing like Cast Away. I think FG put it best above, with "solitude is nice,aswell. In limited amounts."

lillb
07-07-2009, 12:19 AM
I'd love to live alone but not be alone every single day of my life

Ash_735
07-07-2009, 01:46 AM
Patrucci, it seems your life has been full of these kind of problems and in a way it has affected you badly as you're still in these problems, now you makes threads about it but what I'm trying to advise to you is to deal with this stuff out of the forums, otherwise this place will also become another token to remind you about how much your life sucks when really this should be a place to just goof off and have a quick laugh, not constantly go run down details on your life story and how much you want people to know this. I've given you advice before, I told you to stay off the forums until you sort some shit out and you feel better about things and to go visit a Doctor but you constantly come back here and go on like a repeating record which will annoy some members so they'll just class you as attention seeking, I don't know how many times I can tell you to just take a full break from this place until you can feel better about yourself and at least restrain yourself from projecting all the bad shit about your life onto these forums, which in turn will also make you hate this place.

zeppelin
07-07-2009, 05:11 AM
I was bad on cucaine one time, I got caught doing it in my room by my brah. I couldn't feel the beating that ensued later that night.

Patrucci
07-07-2009, 11:00 AM
Ash, leaving these forums isn't going to help anything. This was basically a discu- ah fuck it.

Colonel V
07-09-2009, 05:13 AM
@Havok - leave the guy alone! Its called the 'Free your mind' forum, sounds like the right place.

I do agree with ash to an extent though, maybe you should write a blog? or make a video blog on youtube? People will have proper mature discussions in your own channel or blog.

On topic, yeh i want to live alone LOL at least for a year, between family and the girlfriend, theres too many responsibilities; need a break!

lillb
07-09-2009, 07:19 AM
I'd love to live on my own, but its not possible right now.
Two thirds of my yearly earnings go directly to pay for college. Which leaves just enough for my car insurance bills and other everyday expenses. Also if I was to move out, everything I've got for free right now (cable, internet, etc.) wouldn't be free and I wouldn't be able to afford them. It's come to mind to move out with my brother, since he's mentioned wanting to and he makes a good deal more money than me. But I'd be relying on him too much and that's not fair to him, so I guess I'll stick it out for another couple years until I'm done with college.

Holster
07-20-2009, 06:11 AM
Yeah, I do like it when my mum goes to work and I have the house to myself for 4 hours I can chill out, play footy outside. And cos I love football I get cones and wheelie bins in the front yard to set up a kind of course and use them as obstacles to practice with them and have fun using them, makes it much more interesting than just standing there doing kick-ups, it's well fun.

It's great cos there's no one there to monitor or tell you off, cos if my mum was at home she wouldn't have that, so I think sometimes when you're on your own you aren't restricted or as restricted if you had someone there with you.

However though, I do sometimes get to the point where I just can't wait to communicate and see people, I think it's cool to be on your own, but up to a certain point, cos I don't like to be too lonely I do like to have people around.

So it's a yes/no answer for me.

Kodo
07-21-2009, 11:03 PM
One time I lost my cell phone and didn't get a replacement for a whole month. I spent a lot of time cut off from the world. At first I loved it. I would stay at home for days. Plenty of time with myself and no one to bother me. But after a couple weeks, I really missed my friends. It was frustrating to not be able to talk to someone when I wanted to. Email and Instant Messaging is no match for physical contact.

I also started to go insane. Sometimes your mind can be your worst enemy. Besides this, it's more interesting with other people and their differences. The boredom and lack of communication got to me, and after four weeks I decided to get a new phone.

zeeshan810
07-22-2009, 03:01 PM
One time I lost my cell phone and didn't get a replacement for a whole month. I spent a lot of time cut off from the world. At first I loved it. I would stay at home for days. Plenty of time with myself and no one to bother me. But after a couple weeks, I really missed my friends. It was frustrating to not be able to talk to someone when I wanted to. Email and Instant Messaging is no match for physical contact.

I also started to go insane. Sometimes your mind can be your worst enemy. Besides this, it's more interesting with other people and their differences. The boredom and lack of communication got to me, and after four weeks I decided to get a new phone.
Cool, Loved your Story. :)

Pablo Escobar Jr.
07-22-2009, 05:26 PM
Definetly not.

When I'm at my parents place and they're on vacation ofcourse I'll enjoy one day alone being a lazy ass, but I always have people over on the second day and have a three/four day smoking session.

I couldn't live alone either, can't be alone for more than a couple of hours before getting extremely bored. I need to have friends around me, because I just can't entertain myself. Fapping doesn't cut it, I don't like playing video games, television is boring. ROAR.

blaze0785
07-22-2009, 08:55 PM
I'm kind of close to my parents I wouldn't mind being home with them but if they leave the house I would enjoy it while it last.

Tyler
07-22-2009, 11:38 PM
it has its pro's and con's.
you have noone to contact, this could be put in-between both boxes, depends on your personality.
you have no responsibilities, which could be fun forever.
i love my family, but if i were able to do the things i do with im not with them, it would be great. lol

Legham
07-23-2009, 01:55 AM
^You kidding? Of course there's responsibilities. Houses don't run themselves. You still have to do laundry, kitchen shit, cooking, going to the shops and buying all your groceries, cleaning the house, watering plants etc.

I'm living on my own atm in a huge house and it's no walk in the park :P

Tyler
07-30-2009, 03:09 AM
you're right, i was thinking now, in my life.
with no responsibilities. lol
i unload the dishwasher, cut the lawn, etc.
but yeah.
just LIVING on your own, has it's pros and cons.
not the actual doing it, then everything that comes with it. :P

V-Gamer
07-30-2009, 02:52 PM
I think a dog would make living on your own nice, especially a cute dog, so when you bring a girl home it's a guarantee that she puts out. But that's just me.

Large TVs and sound systems work out well also.

lillb
07-30-2009, 08:31 PM
and a nice kitchen...
so that bitch can cook you breakfast

also back on topic:
Most days I want to live alone, my family drives me nuts, I feel like I have no privacy, and my brother steals my shit all the time.