Final Goodbyes

[Yam Trigger]

Have you ever thought that when you say goodbye to someone that it may be the last time you ever see them alive. It's kind of a scary thought really.

I remember a couple of years back, I was at a party with some friends and I had to leave early because of something I had to do the next day. As I was walking out the door this guy I knew said to me, "See you tomorrow".

The next morning I woke up and found out he had died in a drink, driving accident.

[Staffybull97]

I haven't actually had that happen to me, but I think about it quite a lot.

[ZCAB]

I had that when my mother died.
She was a junkie and treated me like shit pretty much all of the time, but I am pretty sure she only physically hurt me once. It occurred to me on her tenth death day (two years back) that she slapped me around for the first and last time not half an hour before I last saw her. It was also the first and last time she went driving high on cocaine and while heavily fatigued. I recall expecting her to die all through my somewhat conscious years as a child, but it was then I really thought she was going to die, and not in a "I hate her, I wish she would die" way because she hit me.

[guilty.by.association]

I think about that all the time. It's quite upsetting especially when it's the people close to you.

I remember when I was almost 9, I was visiting my grandparents in my hometown where I was born and my grandfather was sick with cancer, I hugged him goodbye in his bed and my step mum told me to give him an extra hug, and I knew it was because i'd never see him again. That was indeed, the last time i ever saw him.

A month later i had to fly back to Christchurch for his funeral, and after the funeral my dad, stepmum, brother, and I went back to the house with my greiving grandmother and my other set of grandparents. I was particularly close to this set of grandparents, i practically grew up with them, they were the best in the world. That night, as I went to bed i hugged and kissed my other grandparents goodnight, turned around one last time and looked at my grandad sitting next to my nana. That was the last time i'd see him too.

The next night he died of a heart attack, several hours after i'd flown back home with my family.

I really did not expect him to die 2 days after my other grandfather.

Loosing them both so soon was hard, but I always make sure I say goodbye to people properly because you always here people say "the last time i saw him i called him a ___" etc.

[aRTee]

I had that when my mother died.
She was a junkie and treated me like shit pretty much all of the time, but I am pretty sure she only physically hurt me once. It occurred to me on her tenth death day (two years back) that she slapped me around for the first and last time not half an hour before I last saw her. It was also the first and last time she went driving high on cocaine and while heavily fatigued. I recall expecting her to die all through my somewhat conscious years as a child, but it was then I really thought she was going to die, and not in a "I hate her, I wish she would die" way because she hit me.

Usualy when parents are like that the child kinda goes to "i dont care" mood and starts to act same way, might even lead to drugs. But its awesome to see how you have become more better and successful in life than your mom.
Good work dude.;)

[The Shy Child.]

No, never had that before but it sounds awful.

[T-Virus]

every single time I meet my mother I kinda have that thought. My mother is also a drug addict. She got hooked on heroin 27 years ago, and she's actually still alive, 52 years old. I only lived with her for my first 7 years, after that, childcare took care of me and put me at my grandparents.

I only meet her like 2 times a year even though we live in a quite small city(Oslo, Norway, ca 500.000 citizens). she stays away most of the time when she's really out of it, but I'm quite used to see her that way, so it doesn't really bother me. She never ever done anything abusive towards me at all though, but it's still kinda hard to reconnect to her when you know she's gonna pass away anytime.