Sexual ethics.

[Pignoah]

Sexual ethics was probably one of my favourite subjects in ethics at school. The delicate balence between taboo/ethics/emotion/statusquo is quite fantastic.

So I'll start it off with a question.


You catch your girlfriend sending a suggestive text to another boy(obvious changes depending on preference), what do you do?

Is virtual flirting wrong when in a relationship?

[Olin]

I would go to his house and fuck him up.

Nah, but I would be pretty ticked. I know that much.

[eli]

It depends on what kind of flirting it is, but if it went on for too long I could end a relationship because of it.

[MurphySk8]

I'm a little vindictive myself, so I'd probably pretend like I don't know anything, then call up an ex. :P

I don't have to worry about that now, though. My last girlfriend was the type of girl to do that. She never cheated on me, but she'd go on and on about guys until it got to the point that I didn't want to hear her talk anymore.

My current girlfriend's quite a bit more laid back and I trust her a lot more, because our relationship didn't start based around superficial bullshit like my last one did. She was a great girl, but I couldn't spend the rest of my life with someone like that. Just annoys me too much.

Actually, we'd get into little fights about this exact subject. She'd start flirting with some local guy on MySpace, I'd call her on it, and she'd say "I was just playing around." Thing is, we used to do the same shit and I knew what that led to, so I wasn't going to be naive about it. Then she talked about the guy, by name in an argument. She asked if I found any of my female friends attractive and I said, jokingly, "Yeah, that 13 year old that won't leave me alone on deviantART, she's a total fox. Mhmm." So she says "Mmm.. Yeah, that Glenn sure is sexy." then went on to list individual physical features she liked.

That'll mess with your head after a while. So glad I'm done with that shit. So to answer your question, I think online flirting is just as serious as if your girl walked up to another guy and started hanging all over him. It's inappropriate, no matter what the context is, unless of course it's just with one of your friends and truly done in a joking manner, like someone you see as a brother or a sister. Some random local guy who hits on you.. not so much. :wink2:

[Kodo]

flirting is flirting. how you handle it depends on your level of self-confidence and faith in your partner. i don't think flirting is harmful if its only used as an icebreaker or to make friends. plus when alcohol is involved flirting just happens.

my girlfriend tells me about guys so i trust her. i know she loves me so i don't get paranoid.

[Tyler]

I would be pretty pissed.
But i guess if you trust her that much, i wouldnt really care.

[MurphySk8]

flirting is flirting. how you handle it depends on your level of self-confidence and faith in your partner. i don't think flirting is harmful if its only used as an icebreaker or to make friends. plus when alcohol is involved flirting just happens.

my girlfriend tells me about guys so i trust her. i know she loves me so i don't get paranoid.

I used to feel the same way, actually, but I think it's different if she seems pre-occupied with one guy in general. She used to get drunk and go to parties with her friends all the time, so I knew some stuff like that would happen, obviously, but it was the stuff she did when she was sober that didn't sit well with me. That, and after a while, she just got so damn annoying in general that it wasn't worth it. :P

[Legham]

I'd break up with her straight away. I don't need that shit.

Depending on how "flirty" the message was of course.

[Tyler]

Actually, Legham, your right.
Having her do that isnt worth your time, and her's.
If she wants to sneak around, let her, and dump her ass on the spot.

[Tendercrisp]

For me, it would depend on the suggestiveness of the text. My reaction could be just totally blowing it off a nothing, or it could be dumping her.

All depends.


I absolutely despise infidelity though. Someone cheats on me, they're gone.

[guilty.by.association]

Cheating is the worst.

Flirting via text is a no no.

[Ash_735]

I'd ask if she was taking the piss, if it was constant flirting then I'd have to break it off with her, I've had enough in the past of girls who cheat and use me until someone better comes along.

[Clayton]

Absolutely not okay. Flirting is just not cool while in a relationship at all.

[4Stroke230]

i think it isnt the best thing,but not the worst

[Sam B.]

I wouldn't want to be with a girl who thinks she can text some guy while I'm in the same room as her

[ska]

I'd be pretty angry but I'd let her explain herself

[lillb]

as some have said it depends on a few things, who it was, what she said, and how long it had been going on
if it was some guy i knew and trusted it wouldnt be so bad, if it was just playful flirting and not like suggestive stuff, and if it was a one time thing all wouldnt get me too worried, however if she's sittin there texting other guys while i'm with her thats a big no no
my ex kinda did this but i never really knew what she was saying most of the time, and now when she texts me and tells me how she wants to fuck me and stuff while she's with some other dude i pretty much think thats what she was saying to other dudes during our relationship

[Layorz]

Sometimes its just not so easy to just let the ones you love go for reasons like texting other people. Same thing can apply to MSN, or myspace etc. I used to get really worked up and protective over things like that. All it seemed to do at the time was make things worse.

[JC]

I'd be pretty angry but I'd let her explain herself

Me too.. but I wouldn't let her explain herself, most likely she'd be making up something.